How can I get him to see things from my view?

Ok..a little up to date so you will better understand. We have been together for 5 years this June. All of which has been long distance because I have been in school & never wanted to move to the boondocks where he lives & he would never make a compromise about moving closer to town until now. 2 years ago we got pregnant. Have a beautiful daughter. When she was 1 I ended things with him because of his lack of emotional, physical & financial support. (He would come visit us on the weekends & play on the computer the whole time while I took care of our daughter & cooked for him, be he would still except me to please him ually...etc.) So I ended it & started moving on with my life. I didn't hear for him for several months, but then I got papers where he was taking me to court for visitation. I never have denied him seeing our daughter I have just wanted to make sure he could do things like change a diaper..because he never had & had plenty of chance too. So we went to court spent several thousands of dollars. About 2 mos after going to court we started trying to work things out. We realized we still had feelings for each other & wanted to try things again. He said he had alot of growing up to do & he was ready to step up & be a good dad. The court order was for our daughter to go to his house in Louisiana every other weekend. I live in Florida. 5 hours away. We did that once then he decided he didn't want her on the interstate that much so he would come see her at our home. And he does. When he does. I cook for him, wash his clothes, we so shopping for him, he spends time on the computer & on the couch. AND he still expects me to wear lingerie for him & have all of this wild with him when he is there. (no don't get me wrong I want to do all of that, but I am tired most of the time) I still do everything for our daughter. I also work full time & I am in school full time working on my B.S. last night I got a little tired & was very snappy to him. It was over something silly & I have said I was sorry since. But thinking about it today makes me mad all over again. His comments to me when I said" I am just tired...tired of doing everything & sometimes it just all adds up..." were "well we don't need to have anymore kids if you cant handle this.. & I wish you would be so snappy with our child." UGH.! First let me say this. Our child is very healthy & happy. I get compliments on what a great job I have done of raising her alone. Secondly,he wants us to move there with him & I have agreed to IF he can find us somewhere to live. He doesn't want up to live where he is now. He expects me to get online to find something. As if I don't have enough going on... How can I get him to see everything that is on my plate & understand me a little better?? I feel like I am giving, giving & giving for everyone!